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Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Dangerous virtual world

You might recall some of my posts about the internet, and specifically social media. I have always had mixed feelings about how it affects our lives and our real (as opposed to digital) relationships. I know first hand that is is quite addictive. I love reading blogs and commenting. I regularly check Facebook updates. I chat with my virtual friends as if they were real. Well, maybe they are but for most I have no proof of that, so since I have a soul of a scientist, until I can prove otherwise, until I can touch them, hug them, they will remain in the world of doubt. 

But one thing I know for sure is that social media can be, and in my case is, a very dangerous place. 

A few months ago, on this blog, I posted a question about goals, which would help me keep my motivation for training high. One virtual friend suggested California International Marathon. I did not think there was enough time for me to train. A simple 'sure there is', as if a virtual buddy knew better what my real body is capable of, and within minutes I was registered. 
So that was the first one, and quite possibly the craziest one.


Then some virtual somebody, I can't even remember who, posted about rowing challenge. If I rowed over 100km between Thanksgiving and Christmas, Concept2 rowing company would donate money to the charity of my choice. Oh, in case you don't know, I really don't like indoor rowing. It is BORING! For those of you who hate treadmills, let me tell you, rowing machines are much worse. So what do I do? I go on rowing practically every day. 
Does it end there? Nope!

Just the other day another virtual buddy asked if I would run a San Francisco half marathon with her. C'mon I am really not into races. Sure I run and I enjoy it, I think, too. I do not race. A day later I pulled out my credit card and said good-bye to $75. She assures me that she is real and that she and her (virtual?) friends had rented a house in San Francisco and I am invited to stay the night before the race. I am worrying that maybe the house is virtual.

This is NOT an inexpensive bike,
but I've been drooling over it for a couple of years now.
Not that I would ever spend several k on it.

And that does not end here either; one more virtual creature is tempting me to train for a Cinderella Ride. My legs are already complaining that I use them too much. I don't have a decent bike. I don't have the time to train. I am a runner, a hiker, not a biker... so why the heck am I so tempted? I think there is something in this virtual world, something like a virus, and I am infected. That's what it is.

Right now the only thing that keeps me from signing up for this is the bike issue. The only bike I have is a heavy and slowly falling apart mountain bike. I like it, I still use it but it is not good for any serious biking. But should I find an inexpensive road bike... 


I have to add something to this already published post. I've been just contacted by another virtual somebody who reminded me about the temptation of backpacking with her. You can all understand that backpacking is one thing I just cannot possibly refuse. The question is, who is this person. I mean going into the woods with someone who might carry tempting treats of cookies and marshmallows in her pack - dangerous proposition.


OK, yet another addition, from another digital friend: 
"You're doing Pikes Peat with your "virtual" buddies, right? YAY!"
OK, it seems I am living in a holodeck after all.

I gotta tell you, be aware of the virtual world. It can make you do things in the real world that your body will punish you for with aches and pains for ever listening to your virtual buddies, who for all I know might exist only in my head. 

24 comments:

Karen said...

You are SO right! I am constantly getting pulled into one virtual challenge or another... it is a dangerous, dangerous world out there ;)

Laima said...

I'm like you, I have very mixed feeling about the internet and social media...

responsibility199 said...

The only challenge I will take in 2012 is my own challenge to finish what I started

Mary said...

You forgot the virtual person who wants you to come backpacking! I agree, it is strange, but also kind of cool how you can eventually meet people you never would otherwise.

Ewa said...

I had to add one more paragraph about hopefully real not virtual backpacking. A voice from the internet world called me to remind me about that.
BTW, VOICE, I thought you were working from home now, not reading blogs. Or is that allowed in the digital world. ;-)

Generation X (Slomohusky) said...

ying and yang in everything in this world - even the virtual ying and yang. :)

Kovas Palubinskas said...

Happily, I have only been tempted once to sign up for a race because of people I didn't know... :)

Karen said...

I like that social media can put me one click away from the people in my past that I don't really keep up with. One click and I know where they live, what they do, and a current photo. This kinda stuff is really a lot of fun.

I can see how it would be hard to separate a blog world from the real one. I usually keep my blog friends from my Facebook (you are one of 4 that are part of both worlds).

I mirror my blog on Tumblr and they regularly exchange Christmas cards, do destination races together, etc. and proclaim their online friends to be better than their real life ones. I'm the opposite. For me, it works best if I establish clear boundaries between what and who I let in my own life. :) The internet is only as addicting as you let it be.

Jill said...

You're doing Pikes Peak with your "virtual" buddies, right? YAY!

Jill said...

Hahah! YAY! Now we just gotta get that guy from South Africa to get on board with us...

misszippy said...

Any time you want to do an event out in the Mid-Atlantic region, you have a virtual buddy to do it with! ; )

One more thought on the bike--check out local bike clubs and see if they do any annual bike swaps. A great way to get a nice ride for a good price. Just a virtual nudge.

Giorgio said...

Of course, the virtual world might affect our real relationships.
I think it's early to see how dangerous the virtual world! But new generations will show us it soon!

Anyway, I'm not "another virtual somebody" :) and I hope you'll enjoy your running and hiking challenges in 2012!

Char said...

I'm pretty sure that my internet friends are real or else I've regressed to childhood and imaginary friends.

Jody - Fit at 54 said...

It is craziness Ewa. Ya have to do it for certain arenas as I have found out but it is such a time commitment - way too much time... I feel like I am always on the computer for something... I think I would prefer person to person to motivate people but this is a great way to do it too.

As for challenges, I know myself & I just don't enter into anything I don't want to do or have time to do PLUS I am, broke so can't afford anyway.... but mostly, I just don't do what I don't want to do...

Tough stuff - you need some boundaries! ;-)

ajh said...

Funny post. Not where I thought it was going.

Michele said...

I agree with misszippy: bike clubs might be a way to get into something good for far less.

I have to have boundaries with social media. One is that I (so far) stay away from FB and Tweeter. I also only comment now on certain blogs and even only read certain ones, too. Time drain for me otherwise.

Joy said...

I actually met a virtual friend. Now she's my real Friend (Margene from
Believing it's Possible is half the battle). She's awesome!! So glad I took the chance to get to know her! We ran 2 5k's together before she moved away. It was a blast!

Stay focused!

Julie Lost and Found said...

I've met a couple of good friends in the "virtual" world and have met in real life..one of whom I hang out with fairly regularly. She has gotten me interested in hiking and wants me to go backpacking in the mountains. I'm not quite ready for that, but it's a goal. I have a fitness goal: to climb Mt. Khatadin and we may one day do that together. Though I'm fairly certain that no amount of fitness will get me to go the knife edge route.. :)

Fran said...

It's actually a very funny post. It made me smile.

But I do know what you mean. I stopped doing virtual challenges. I have met one blogger for real, you know her too, it's Amy from Belgium and she is even sweeter than she is on her blog and in her comments.

I have had kind of an addiction with a dutch women's forum a couple of years ago. I could be on that forum the entire day. It even put stress on my relationship which was the reason I took a step back and since then I'm always paying attention that I don't spend too much time on the internet. I check my Facebook a few times a day and read a few blogs at work and at home but also make sure I have time for other things.

Amy said...

You crack me up Ewa! I totally know what you mean - if you feel like you have to participate in every virtual challenge out there it is very quickly overwhelming. And then you feel like you are missing out on something when you can't keep up with all of them...

We all just have to be ourselves and do what is right for us!
(And Fran, thanks for your sweet words - you are making me blush!)

Lily on the Road said...

well, virtually speaking, I've made some "real" friends by taking chances and meeting up with them for races, cycling and we've remained real life friends for years now.

You have to go with your gut feeling but usually you know who is "for real" or not. BTW, joining a cycling club that is touring and not competitive opens many new doors!!

and yes, I'm a real live person LOL

Rach @ Girl on the Run said...

haha so true..but hey, there are worse addictions than endurance events right?!

Jo Lynn said...

You calling me a "virtual creature"? LOLOL
That bike would be awesome for Cinderella Challenge ride. ;)

Black Knight said...

Beautiful post.
Many virtual friends became real friends and I met some nice bloggers.
I live a hectic life and it's difficult that I can take the time for virtual challenges too (I mean virtual races).